This article has been doing the rounds – Big Pimping – How American parents turn their daughters out. It’s received a lot of breathless commentary along the lines that it is a “must read” and “read only if you have a strong stomach” and the like.
The article describes the sexualization of American girls, but really it could apply to about any of the Anglo-Saxon nations. The only difference is in the degree of abject misery. But I am not referring to the article so as to spruik its wares, so to speak. Rather, I wish to consider the wrongness of its conclusions. It identifies the symptoms but not the root cause.
Let’s start with the fact that apparently there are so many women getting “ghosted” (abandoned by men after brief romantic encounters) that they now constitute a demographic cohort big enough to be a presidential voting bloc.
Which is surprising, because for the last twenty years or so, American girls have been raised from birth to be premium dating fodder, primed from the first whiff of puberty to be Available for Sex on Saturday Night. So why are they being ghosted in droves? Abandoned and left to die alone, clutching their pets and Warren for President signs?
You’d think these girls would be experts at snagging a mate. Years of sex ed, birth control pills, and permission to date early and often with no judgement from the grownups should have guaranteed they’d have suitors dangling from their every finger, lines outside the door, dates every night, so many engagement rings shoved under their noses they’d be blinded by the shimmering sight of all those diamonds nestled against black velvet.
Her conclusion is that nobody wants to wife a sex expert. Her conclusion is wrong. It’s not that men don’t want to wife up these spoiled specimens. There are plenty of thirsty men out there, countless numbers by all reasonable measures. No, the reason that these women are doomed to a life of cats and test tubes is that they are alpha widows.
For those of us in this petty corner of the internet, this is not news. It is old hat. But perhaps, just perhaps the words that I write will be picked up by the common folk. Who knows? Stranger things have happened.
The doom of these women is online dating. They are doomed because online dating reduces all random encounters to a mere snapshot of desire. The photo of the dating profile determines the likelihood of the encounter. Thus, the top 20% of men, (and some consider it to be much lower than this), account for more than 80% of the dating. These men will happily oblige women who would normally be way below their social standing. But because this is mere online pickup culture, they do not really care.
The alpha widow has been adequately explained on various occasions during the run of the manosphere, but let us take Rollo’s definition as a good example:
This then is the basis of the Alpha Widow:
A mental fixation on the man who made the most significant impact upon a woman as her Hypergamous ideal.
The Fantasy Ideal
Usually this male ideal is an actual man from her past with whom she had some sort of relationship with, but not always. Sometimes the fantasy of that ideal will make a mental impression and sometimes a brief, seemingly insignificant, encounter with an ideal man may be enough to imprint on her psyche.
Five Minutes of Alpha Trumps Five Years of Beta.
Alpha widows were common in past days of live pickup, but now it appears to be that they are a veritable plague. The woman who bedded a top tier man believes that it is her right to continue to bed such men, even though it was merely a happenchance through the portal of online dating. These women are not being ghosted by average guys who might want to start a family. They are being ghosted by the alpha chads who no longer consider them to be usable.
The long quoted article revels in the awful misery of these horrible parents who sexualize their children, and it is horrible. But contrary to the woman’s belief who write the piece, it is not that the nice young men are not picking the spoiled young ladies. Rather it is the spoiled young ladies, precisely because they are spoiled and soiled, who are not choosing to marry the nice young men. They got a top tier man once and so they deserve to have one again, for the rest of their lives.
Which isn’t going to happen. Hence the ghosting. Oh me, oh my. Whatever shall I do when I hit twenty five.
This gigantic mess is mere proof of the power of sex. We have been brought up to believe that sex is casual and fun and something that anyone can do whenever they want, and most importantly that it is consequence free. But it is nothing of the sort. Just five minutes for an average woman with a single heartthrob man and she is ruined for life. There was a reason that previous generations jealously guarded their womenfolk.
The worst thing about this article is that it is about women.
Care for an ominous peek into our future hellscape? CNN Business published a recent study that said “by 2030, 45% of working women aged 25 to 44 in the United States will be single, the largest share in history.”
Well, if the women are single then the men are too. But as always, the sophistry of women means that it can only ever be about them. We are presented with this article and supposed to bemoan the plight of women. The same women who are rejecting the majority of men because of the consequences of their sluttish behavior.
As always, this will only get better when we gat the patriarchy back. Soon may it return, for your sakes, ladies.
Originally published at Pushing Rubber Downhill. You can purchase Adam’s books here.