The Harrison Butker speech has been doing the rounds. For the record, I think in general it was an excellent speech. I could nitpick, but who of us is perfect? He has been accused of not going far enough and skirting the real underlying causes of the topics he chose to talk about. My response to that is, one step at a time, boys.
What I really like about this latest controversy is that he is not backing down, nor has he fallen into the trap of apologising. He has given another speech where he reiterated all of his viewpoints. John C Wright has the link to that speech, but it was something else in that short post by Wright that really caught my eye.
For the record, here is his bio line from Twitter:
“Christus Regnat! Husband & Father #7 @chiefs 3x Super Bowl Champion.”
Note that he puts Christ first, then family, and only then his athletic career.
One of the red pill tropes that has been taken as Gospel for a number of years is the idea that a man must have a mission, and that if he substitutes a woman for that mission then he will invariably lose her. In other words, you cannot make a woman your prime focus and reason for existence. This was neatly encapsulated in Roissy’s 16 Commandments of Poon.
III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority
Forget all those romantic cliches of the leading man proclaiming his undying love for the woman who completes him. Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be “The One” or the center of a man’s existence. They in fact want to subordinate themselves to a worthy man’s life purpose, to help him achieve that purpose with their feminine support, and to follow the path he lays out. You must respect a woman’s integrity and not lie to her that she is “your everything”. She is not your everything, and if she is, she will soon not be anymore.
The assumption has always been that a man’s mission is his employment, or perhaps a major hobby that he does as a sideline. In my own case I suppose my mission has been my writing and music, while the various fields in which I have worked have also contributed. At least, that was what I always assumed.
Which is why that Twitter bio from Butker gave me pause. It forced me to reevaluate my position on this long held trope. Remember lads, we always need to be examining our beliefs when we encounter new evidence. That’s what growth is about. Otherwise, you’re just stagnating.
Butker’s mission is to be a Godly man and to lead his family towards God. The ball kicking that he does for the Chiefs is way down the line in importance. Incidentally, this is most probably a major reason why he has been able to stand firm against the attacks of the System and its foot soldiers. They can’t take away from him that which he values the most.
Before women were seduced by careers, men were seduced first. The mass turning away from God towards secularism through the trap of materialism has been a long and gradual process, but it started with men. Once men abdicated their responsibility in this sense then the floodgates were opened for the rest of the family to do the same.
As Roissy correctly states, women do not want to be ‘the one’; they don’t need that kind of pressure, but most of all they won’t put up with such an abdication of responsibility on the part of the man. If you stand only for her then you really stand for nothing much at all.
So we all assumed that it meant we had to stand for our jobs, and that sort of thing. Which means materialism, the physical world, the world of lies. And surprise surprise, that hasn’t been going so well now, has it.
The most worthy life purpose that a man can have is to become a Godly man, and to do his best to be a conduit for God’s will while simultaneously leading his wife and children towards a life centered on God, so that ultimately they stand the best chance of getting to heaven. These days, very few souls get to heaven, no matter what your ‘Jesus is my boyfriend’ religious community tells you.
The great thing about this approach is that the way is clear and well defined. As a man, you could be a ditch digger or a CEO, it doesn’t matter. What matters is your dedication to your real mission. In the pews of the church, all are equal in this regard. Yet often it may well be the ditch digger that has the best of it.
Harrison Butker is not a ditch digger, but if he had to go that way it wouldn’t faze him. For his mission is Christ’s reign on earth. Once you accept and follow this mission then virtues such as charity and humility start to fall into place. It’s all related.
Originally published at Pushing Rubber Downhill. You can purchase Adam’s books here.
